Once you bring your baby home from hours on end of painful childbirth. As you try to recover from the exhaustion as your body is healing up. You will go through what I like to call the ‘honeymoon stage’. As family and friends drop by to see your precious little bundle of joy. You look into the eyes of your baby and you keep falling in love over and over again. There is the feeling that you don’t want to let go of your baby. It’s as if your baby high just doesn’t want to come down. You may get ridiculed and judged if you hold your baby too much. Before you know it you will find that love ones are saying you are spoiling your child.
You may ask yourself should I let my baby cry…
As I just given birth to my baby girl a few months ago. I struggled with putting her down. When it started off at first as simple response to soothing her. Does she have a wet diaper or does she need to be fed. I felt that it goes much deeper than those basic needs.
What I found was key in these basic questions…
Are you on a schedule?
This was something that was hard for me to do. I felt as if that it was an impossible to pull off at first. But, you can do it. I started to write down my babies rhythm. You may ask what is the rhythm? The rhythm is their routine. When they go to down for a nap, feeding, or just awake play times. Just knowing this made a world of a difference to me. Once you begin to feel your child’s rhythm. It will help you in not driving yourself crazy when the baby starts to cry. You will see as you will begin to predict it before it happens.
Do you have attachment issues?
I suffered major attachment issues or baby withdrawals. I couldn’t even stand to hear my baby girl crying for a second. (Still can’t..He..Hee) She would cry her little head off with my husband. I would immediately react and take her from him. This made him feel inadequate as a father by interrupting his bonding time. It was no good in training her habits to stop crying. So, begin to check your own behavioral reactions to your bundle of joy.
Are you sinking into “spoiling” the baby syndrome?
Now, this is something that I didn’t want to believe in. How could you spoil a baby? This is the time that developmentally they need that constant touch and interaction. My opinion is don’t fall into the your “spoiling” your baby trap. There is a time and a season for everything. In the beginning stages I believe that as your building your relationship with your newborn. They need to know you will be there when they “yell” or “call”. So, reaction time is key in certain situations.
So, don’t beat yourself up. Give yourself some grace in this time in your life. I know I had to try to find the new normal as you adjust to your babies needs.
Check out this great tool that I use to track my newborns rhythm. Using this tracker will allow you to begin to free up your time for you. Once you learn your babies rhythm you will cut down your stress.
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This is the time to enjoy these little moments with your baby. No matter how stressful it may get at times. Don’t rush the process. Just enjoy the journey!
As you are coming into figuring out your call as you may be knee deep on motherhood or you just may be a new mother. There is no time like the present to become unveiled.
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